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However, in a dating situation, kissing on the lips, and especially French kissing, means one and only thing: you want to be in a relationship with the person.
I’m saying it again: if you kiss somebody on the lips in France, it means that you consider this person as your boyfriend or girlfriend and that you want to be exclusive and in a relationship with them (long or short term doesn’t matter here, though). On the other hand, remember that French society and French people are not as messed up as Americans are when it comes to sex.
Yep, this is how French women are, and as a consequence, this is how French men (that have only dated French women) will behave too.
One thing that always disturbed me in the US is how it’s sometimes easy to kiss or to get kissed (I’m talking mouth kissing, or even French kissing here).
I say “the country you’re in” and not “the nationality of the person you’re dating” because I believe that, at least in the beginning, you cannot assume that a local will know the dating rules in your country; on the other hand, if you are the displaced one, you may already know all too well about this little thing called “cultural differences”.
Here I’m assuming that one of the two persons involved is a local.
Also note that blind dates are almost non-existent in France.
But also note that all of those things have been changing a lot in recent years because of internet dating that has become extremely popular in France, and especially in Paris. So if a French woman says no when you ask her out (or anything else), it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t want to go out with you, it means she’s playing hard to get, and you’ll have to ask several times.
In France, it’s really rare that you talk to strangers in a bar, unless it’s a very lively bar, it’s late at night and everybody is very drunk and happy.
In the US, I’ve had some first dates going great and everything went south afterwards because the girl felt I was calling too much, pretty much harassing her. I remember a few years ago, the last time I had a French (female) roommate. One day, she was all worried and stressed and pissed because he hadn’t called/emailed/messaged in about 8 hours!
In France, if a guy calls a girl a lot, it means he cares. For her there was one possible explanation: he didn’t care about her.
In France, the rule with sex is simple: it can happen anytime after the first kiss… It’s that first kiss that will trigger the “ok for sex” option in your relationship.
Hence the importance of the timing of that kiss regarding to where you want to go and what you want to do with that person.