Same race dating preferences
If anything, that makes your argument even more misguided because you are basically admitting that you’ve never been given the opportunity to try and form relationships with anyone from that community, so how do you even have enough information to “know” that you won’t be attracted to people that you’ve never met?
This brings us to the heart of the problem: stereotypes.
I hear it all too often: “I’m not racist, but I just wouldn’t date [insert race/ethnicity].” If you have to start a sentence with a clarification that you’re not racist, that’s a pretty good indicator that you need to reevaluate whatever you’re about to say.
Before I spark a litany of impassioned defenses of your dating history, I want to reassure you that I’m not saying that all preferences are inherently biased and oppressive. However, the most troublesome aspect of racial preferences lies in their exclusionary nature and heavy generalizations.
Yet time and time again, racial preferences are shrugged off as a legitimate and immutable aspect of sexual individuality, to the point where questioning them is demonized as threatening someone’s personal expression with uptight, irrational political correctness.
You’re probably noticing that this train of thought has a lot in common with the “born this way” argument for queerness. You are not oppressed for being called out on stereotyping others.
On the surface, the dating site Where White People Meet – launched in late 2015 by a married man who publicly defended the site, for white people who want to date other white people, by stating he isn’t a racist because he dated a black woman once – may seem like a fair endeavor.
He immediately told me, “I don’t like black guys, sorry,” and then signed off.Saying that you only want to date a specific race is equally problematic because it defines someone by their ethnicity.Assuming that someone’s racial background gives them more desirable qualities reflects harmful histories of colonialism and the exotification and fetishization that went along with it.So why is the logic of superficial judgment validated when it comes to race?Not dating someone on the basis of hair color sounds silly.