Paraplegic online dating
In the end, I think my experience on Tinder was kind of amazing because it made me realize that I am who I am as a person, and not how I get around. The online dating scene is hard no matter what traits you're bringing to the table, but a young paraplegic woman is opening up about how taking on Tinder in a wheelchair has it's own set of problems — including men who would disappear as soon as they found out she couldn't walk.I've usually ended up dating guys who I met in real life and my being in a wheelchair was usually never a problem in my dating life until I started meeting guys on Tinder. A., then moved to Boston for work, and now I live in New York City.I thought my experiences with Tinder dating in different cities would be different, but weirdly, I found it was totally the same in all three cities.When I first set up my Tinder profile, I wasn't sure if I should make my disability super obvious in my photos.I originally thought I should, but then my friends told me I didn't have to do that if I didn't want to because my disability doesn't impact the type of activities I'm into, or who I am, or even my day to day.And I don't think it's their fault, but I did see that there were more people than I realized who felt that way. About a week after I got off Tinder, I reconnected with a guy I met a year ago at a restaurant who I was immediately drawn to at the time, and we later ended up going on a fantastic date and now we're kind of seeing where it goes.
" And I wanted to say, "Of course I can, asshole." I seriously can't tell you how many Tinder guys asked me that as soon as I mentioned the wheelchair. " I seriously had to tell him, "I don't think it's going to be changing anytime soon." He just vanished and I was really bummed about it.
I never did that in an attempt to deceptive, I just wanted people to get to know me as a person and not me as a person in a wheelchair.
In my everyday life, I so often feel like people treat me differently when they find out I'm disabled.
The first Tinder date I went on, I didn't tell the guy that I was disabled before we got together.
We'd been talking for about two weeks leading up to the date, mostly about our careers and where we were from, and I was intrigued by him because we're both from the same part of the country and it's a small town and that seemed interesting. Once he saw I was in a wheelchair, he immediately wouldn't look me in the eye for the rest of the night and we basically spent the whole date ignoring the elephant in the room.