Some statistics show that for every man over 50, there are up to 5 women; over 60, ten women, and so on. The days of sitting back and waiting for anything incoming are over.
If you want to be noticed and rise to the top, it pays to create the best possible profile and keep it polished and shiny.
Once you’ve hit your 40s and beyond, you kind of know what works for you and what doesn’t. If you do a good job describing yourself and painting a picture of what it feels like to be in a relationship with you, it will attract the right men and repel the wrong ones.
If so, you are likely making at least one of the mistakes commonly made by women over 40 who are using online dating as their new discos. ) Unfortunately, all it takes is one major profile mistake to potentially sabotage any chance of finding love — or even a few good dates.
Among the first to approach me after the session was a woman in her late 60s. The two of them have been happily living together for 10 years now. "Many men find women their own age or older to be more confident — and sexier. Find a man who wants a smart, lively companion, not a youngster or a visiting nurse." Had the man behind her heard me utter the word "sexier"? His wife had been in a psychiatric hospital for the past six years, he explained.
"And we can." Three examples sprang to mind: My husband, 15 months younger than I am, had dated only women about our age before meeting me.
I guarantee you’ll see the immediate payoff in the quality of men you attract. Here are some statements I see every day in women’s profiles: “I’ve waited so long for the right relationship and I hope it’s finally my time.” “I’m ready to be his everything.” “I’m looking for a relationship where we are totally devoted to each other.” While some of this may be true for you, it’s not something to put in a profile.
The man reads this as you having incredibly high expectations and reliance on your relationship for your happiness. If you wouldn’t say it on your first date, don’t write it in your profile. Women in their 40s, 50s and beyond are particularly guilty of this.