Dating and 1st year sobriety
The old “I’ve wrestled with my demons and won” line? How about a simple, “I’m a pretty hot colossal f**k up”?It’s always a little awkward when a potential date wants to “meet you for a drink.” Telling them you’re sober feels like confessing to some horrible chronic STD.I’ve been in and out of 12-step recovery programs (like Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous) for almost 20 years.I’ve had many periods of sobriety, from a paltry four months to a lengthy seven years (and everything in between).Drawing on my own experience and that of others in recovery, this book highlights fifty things that all of us should know once we’ve decided to treat our addiction.Some of the topics included are: The First 30 Days – What to expect and how to get through it.I say grab it with both greedy hands if you stumble upon it, and do whatever it takes to keep it, as long as it works for you.
That’s one of the main upsides to dating somebody who’s also sober.
Natasha says, “The main con is that it is guaranteed that this person has a ton of hang-ups and emotional baggage.
They may well be using other ways to 'act out' now that using or drinking is off the table.”My own experience with the program is that other addictions sometimes run rampant, morphing into other areas of their lives. Many people, when they finally get sober, develop issues with food, gambling, sex, and spending.
During the past two decades, I’ve dated both men in recovery and men who weren’t alcoholics (called “normies” by us in the program).
I’m currently single again, a sober divorcée in the strange world of online dating. How do you allude to your past (and present) situations without lying or scaring off a potential match?